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PORNOGRAPHY The High Cost of Internet Pornography With internet pornography, many are logging on to sexual addiction - and paying a big price. SilasPartners.com - Internet pornography is big business with over 1 million pornographic web sites playing to 75 million adults and 25 million children online. Easy access brings the problem to the homes and offices of many men. Pornography offers excitement and immediate gratification but has long-term negative effects. It destroys intimate relationships and puts a block in your relationship with God. Jack came to see me. He was somewhat embarrassed as he began telling his story. Jack was happily married, had two children and was raised in a Christian home. Jack and his wife went to church regularly and considered their Christian faith a central part of their lives. Life was treating Jack well. He had a great job, terrific wife and talented children. Lately, Jack was out of control. Desperate for help, he found himself gripped by a problem he never anticipated. Jack was addicted to Internet pornography. Each night in the secrecy of his home office, Jack logged on to a variety of X-rated sites. These were places he would never dream of going in person. Dressed in Dockers and a Polo shirt, Jack fulfilled his sexual fantasies behind a closed door. In the bedroom next to his office slept his two sweet children. His wife read a novel downstairs. Jack is hardly the image of a man addicted to pornography. He is not receiving brown paper covered magazines in the mail, frequenting lap dancing bars, renting X-rated movies or seeing a prostitute. His lusts and fantasies are fulfilled secretly and anonymously. Internet pornography is big business with over 1 million pornographic web sites playing to 75 million adults and 25 million children online. Easy access brings the problem to the homes and offices of many men. The temptation to visit these sites is immense and why a major mental health problem for men is now addiction to Internet pornography. Here’s what happens: Many men say they feel pulled to these sites. Although determined to resist the temptation, they log on and find themselves in a porn room. The power of lust and seduction is real. After they have given in to temptation, the enemy has access to their hearts and minds. They begin to want more and the addiction begins. Pornography offers excitement and immediate gratification but has long-term negative effects. It destroys intimate relationships and puts a block in your relationship with God. Many marital problems can be traced back to men caught up with pornography. The root of any addiction is an unmet need. An obsession with pornography may relate to difficulty establishing intimate relationships, boredom, past hurts or fears about sexual performance. You need to think about what need pornography fills in your life. Many men are drawn to it because of the excitement, the fantasy and the lust. The problem is pornography feeds on your mind and eventually leads to destruction. If, like Jack, you find yourself caught in the grip of Internet pornography, read other articles in this series to learn what to do to break the habit. |
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